fear of losing your child phobia

See your doctor. I would do the same now. Until finally, when I had to go back to work, I was pretty comfortable with her taking care of him. I have so been in your shoes! It doesn't interfere with our lives at all, it just makes us more cautious parents. Sometimes it's easier for a child and the nanny to bond when the parent is away. Make sure though you take extra minerals during detox, so you don't deplete yourself (the good gets taken out with the bad) and to take ''algin'' (google) so the heavy metals can't redistribute back into the body once in the intestines. Symptoms include increased heart rate, While most phobias develop in childhood, they can also develop in later life. Then you will know what it is and that it is not cancer. Kids scrape and hit their teeth and tumble into the water. What struck me is that you feel this is a problem, that you are giving these thoughts a lot of importance by calling them premonitions and that you immediately replace the thoughts with positive ones. Sadly, in this country we are doing such a fabulous job of preventing death and illness that we are under the illusion that it never happens. the best way to climb out of it is to empower yourself and your child. It has had such a detramental effect on her. This happened to me when I was so sleep-deprived that I was hallucinating, and I never even came close to acting on them (I was horrified and guilt-stricken) but our brains act sometimes before we exercise conscious control. problems can produce anxiety symptoms, or make them worse. I do the exact same things you mentioned. encounter with an object or situation. It has been going on for a while, over 2 years, and I\x92ve explained it away with hormones, strong bond, extra worry, stress, guilt. Dear trapped at home, Unfortunately, the way our culture is set up, depression from isolation is a common occupational hazard of motherhood. It was starting to interupt my life so severly that upon recommendation I went to a doctor at The Cognitive Center for Behavior Therapy. He or she might have some solutions for you that you didn't know about. I know you don't want diagnoses, but sometimes if you try to find the root of your fears, it helps to be more rational when those premonitions come on. Hi, I don't have any advice really, but I do share the same sort of worries and visions of something terrible happening to my kids. What I have done to cope with this is the very minute that anxiety producing thought comes into my mind I banish it, refuse to elaborate on it mentally and instead I envision a golden bubble around the person I am worried about, protecting them from all harm. These things are equally true- the world is a scary, horrible place that wants to devour your child and the world is a magical place, full of joy, that wants to embrace your child. It's likely some left over evolutionary hard-wiring from when we really did need to act like mama bears in order for our young ones to survive. Know why a new medicine or treatment is prescribed and how it will help your child. If you feel that you can handle it yourself, I would see a therapist who can maybe help you get to the root of the issue and help you to feel calmer. childs healthcare provider. I know you don't want a medical diagnosis but since I have one for my problem and it is similar to what you are describing I will let you know. It can be referred to as anxiety or fear over your child possibly dying, outliving your children, or fear of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) in infants. Please relax you will do more harm worring unnecessarily.. try this site for info on cancer statistics in children and go from there. okay that was hokey - fear never leaves a parent. Practice the good visions (whatever they are) during a time you are not having invasive thinking. I don't think I had the same reaction to it as you. I believe that we are hard wired to protect our kids and that having little 'premonitions' of terrible things that could happen is mother natures way of keeping us cautious and watchful over our children. You can deal with this! Maybe join a moms group so you can have some other moms to hang/ do things with and maybe you can trade babysitting nights eventually with a few you like and trust. We adore these children - whether it is the first visit or the 100th. If you still get freaked out, just wait a while and try to enjoy these early months. I know you didn't want a medical diagnosis, but the good news is that anxiety and phobia is the *easiest* mental illness to treat. I had 3 older children when he passed away. -trapped at home. i represent kids and parents in neglect cases (cases that go to CPS) and you'd be amazed by the amount of neglect that kids face and NOTHING really bad happens to them - at least nothing in the sense that you are concerned about - rather the bad things that occur is systematic and long-term neglect and its affect on children's psychological well-being. phobia, a diagnosis will be made. And then you worry more. from reading your post, i take it that you are probably over-protective, never leave your child alone - look way ahead into the future and super plan for any type of problems you may face. ), so lavish in these healthy days! The last thing I want is to be operating from a fear-based perspective, or to have my worry rub off on him. diagnose. So, being apart from each other was very out of the norm and always made me afraid something bad was going to happen. So I think it's perfectly NORMAL that we end up developing these fears! I've already started utilizing some of the suggestions in the book, and feeling more physically in control and intuitively in tune has helped me to feel more secure and relaxed about my child's safety. I don't think this is abnormal, as long as these thoughts don't overtake your entire day every day. He had, sadly, experienced the sudden, unexpected loss of someone young and close to him. Common phobias are a fear of animals, insects, blood, heights, or flying. We need to watch our children and make sure they don't get into accidents, so we develop a habit of thinking a few moments into the future at all times(''what will happen if I let her climb on that chair?'' Especially when my kids were small, I suffered terribly with worries about impending catastrophe! Dr. Michael Tompkins 510-652-4455 Anon, I have often had these thougths too.NOTHING has ever happened to my children. Know that anything could happen at anytime, each day is a gift. anon. The truth of the matter is that when we are so bonded to another person, we become completly vunerable, and the loss of the person would murder a part of ourselves. I have certainly felt that way. And for the record, I had a devastating death in the family a few months back, so a lot of this is stemming from that (knowing that anything can happen, knowing how tenuous life is) and from a new and overwhelming feeling of responsibility to my family (that they couldn't possibly handle another loss, so I have to find a way to keep going for them). Trichophobia is a fear of hair. and I still suffer from horrendous nightmares about losing my children from time to time. I also had her come over for just a few hours each day for one month while I was at home (and of course paid her for it). At night, the house is bolted up tight because I am sure someone will take my son and have imagined all the horrendous scenarios. I do not have a crystal ball. I think sometimes we work things out in our thought patterns, especially things we fear. and I gradually felt better about having someone care for my child. You are not alone. Is it possible you may have some deep-seated issues in your own life that contribute to these unusual feelings? Your child may need: Experts dont know how to prevent So do the best you can and develop some coping skills- meditate, go to therapy, work it out at the gym, go to church- whatever helps you. Being in touch with other parents who have a child with an Relaxed Grandma, I think cognitive behavioral therapy might help you. I too sometimes have such thoughts, and they used to be more frequent and more powerful before I spent a chunk of time talking with a good therapist. Hello. Read or sing to your child. Constant worries are another issue, though. Anxiety is powerful because it feels out of control, sending our thoughts on endless You can join a group or take a class somewhere. But then i got it. Death is an inevitable part of life everyone must learn to accept. Treatment may include therapy and I know you are not looking for a diagnosis but I was having similar thoughts and others that were causing me GREAT anxiety and distress. ( You can still use the Nanny cam) The first time maybe just go out for a half hour to get used to it etc and build up. We try to be as careful as we can, within reason, and try not to worry about ''what if?'' Additionally, I have routine fears about being in a bad car accident. If you tried that and found it doesn't work for you than I would consult someone- just for the peace of mind. Tell others about your childs phobia. My husband had similar worries the whole time our girls were growing up. This particular thought distortion's called ''catastrophising'' which means thinking of the worst possible outcome without any real evidence. A conscious, meditative effort to think about other, more realistic futures (if you need to imagine hardship, imagine comforting him after his first heartbreak or flunking his driving test) and 2. Anxiety keeps you from seeing the happiness in front of you, including the potential of healthy times with your kids. First any physical problems are As long as you don't dwell on it and realize the feelings for what they are and why you are having them, it's absolutely okay and normal. The probability is exceedingly low, and worrying about it will only make me and my child more nervous. I also have recently reminded myself that I needed to continue to do the things that I love to recharge my own soul and spirit so that I can be a better mother. Feel free to contact me if you like. Those negative thoughts are useless and have no value and you can train yourself to get rid of them. But honestly sometimes it's hard to do that and the worries will consume me..feel free to email..if we can somehow support each other I'd be willing to. But it isn't real, it isn't your intuition, and it doesn't signify any harm that might befall your loved one. I thought I was the one who was next! Now, of course, I am doing the same thing with my child. It sounds so crazy I am hesitant to discuss it with my medical doctor. Since 2009 I have been living this nightmare of fear of losing my child. Coitus Coitophobia. Trypophobia is the fear of holes. you are already on the right page. Do what you can to feed your child organic foods and stay healthy. Your post describes everything I think. I also asked her to fill out a chart (when did he nap, eat, etc. It really sounds like anxiety. My recommendation to you would be to get help for this fear instead of seeing the fear as 'real'. totally anonymous, I have that same problem and have for many years. Then those premonitions usually go away. Help Have your child see his or her healthcare provider for a diagnosis. I would definitly talk to your dr. about the problem. Before her it was my dogs, friends, family or self that I would imagine about. Try to remind yourself it can take years to build the toxins up in your body and that mostly older people get cancer. If not, it's probably because of your outstanding love for your son. They may be more difficult to handle for some people or more vivid, but I'll bet just about all of us have them. I lie in bed at night imagining all sorts of horrible things that could happen to my children and then imagine the feeling of not knowing what to do with myself because of the enormity of the pain. However, you can develop phobias of virtually anything. Her dau Hope to hear from others who feel the same way, and others who have conquered their fear of losing their children. What should I do when my mind goes there (imagining the worst)? try kidpwower - it changed my life and my child's. If you can wait until you baby is a little older like 1.5 and sleeping more at night it might be easier to have a sitter then because basically your child will just be sleeping. So, I don't know if this is ''normal'' or not, but you are not alone! the next step is to get your child on the same page. Work with your childs healthcare provider and schools to create a coordinated psychologists, school staff, and psychiatrists. Here are things you can do to help your child: Tips to help you get the most from a visit to your childs healthcare provider: Cedars-Sinai has a range of comprehensive treatment options. Here are some specific strategies that will help you deal with them: First of all, stop calling them ''premonitions''. It is a common reason why some women request an elective cesarean section. There are many good referrals here in the archive or your primary care doc can refer. A phobia is an excessive fear of an object or situation. Also know what the side effects are. I was feeling a lot better after two sessions, and much, much better after four. Fear of dying. Sounds harsh, right? Reach out for support from local A must see (google) is the DVD ''Healing cancer from the inside out.'' Right now I am seeing a homeopathist that is treating me for various health issues, but during our appointments, this unreasonable worry has come up, and she hopes that the constitutional remedy we are working with will help it, too. I made the decision to take time off and stay home shortly after he was born, but am starting to realize that I am very unhappy as a stay at home mom. You might also look at past points in your life for times when you have had losses and how you worked through them. It lasts for at least 6 months. The symptoms of a phobia may resemble other medical conditions or psychiatric problems. Something to point out is that the term phobia implies an irrational fear that somehow distresses or impairs you. Pedophobia or Pediaphobia is the excessive fear of children, infants, toddlers, or babies. What do I do? For now, I try to stop my imagination from running wild all the time. Maybe you have? With the proper help, you can be a lot happier and less anxious than you are now. It lasts for at least 6 months. Nicole, I have and had these same thoughts etc. A phobia is an excessive fear of an I can understand the fear, this is one heck of a toxic world! Take care of yourself. As far as your kid goes - multivitamin in the morning - Omega 3, a kids greenz and calcium/magnesium in the evening (all chewables - start past age 4). Don't know what else there is to do about it, really. The only person that I ever shared these imaginings with was my husband and then only after several years of marriage. Learn what turns into sugar in your body. Possibly seeing a therapist can help find the root cause of all this worry. When my oldest was 18 months old, I clearly remember breaking down in tears for fear I would lose him. Call them ''invasive thoughts'', because that's what they are - They are invading your peace. And all of this is totally hypothetical--my son is healthy, and there's no reason for me to think that anything terrible is going to happen to him (except that he has been spending more time away from me, with his father, lately). I went to a therapist who told me to try biofeedback. I do have good friends that I love, but they don't have answers, nor the power to keep me going if anything should happen. Ummm, you are being irrational. Good luck. Also, babies need their caregiver to be reasonably present to facilitate responsive two-way communication. Just think about cars 25 years ago vs. how they smell & look today. As you likely know, this is more challenging when you're feeling overly depressed, anxious or unhappy. I was mad that my gyn. Analyzing the source of the impulse to think about these fears in the first place. If these small measures do not work, perhaps it's time to seek some professional help to work through any enduring difficult feelings of fearfulness and depression. I don't know whether you are suffering from depression and would benefit from professional help (therapy, medication), or if you can somehow get yourself to a place where you are enjoying life and invested in it for your own sake. It's just your brain and body misfiring -- just because your brain and body tell you something, doesn't mean it's true! You are undoubtedly passing some of that on to the kids. The Environmental Working Group has great information at www.ewg.org, including a shopper's guide to pesticides. Learn what happens to oils at high temperatures. We check on our baby a lot when she's sleeping (we co-sleep, but she naps and goes to bed earlier than we do). -anon. It is a process to retrain your brain to react in a different way to your thoughts. He doesn't now (right? For example, if I come home tired and my husband suggests going and picking up dinner and he takes our son, I get a feeling like \x91what if they are in a terrible accident because I was too tired to cook dinner?\x92 Or sometimes I\x92m afraid something will be wrong with my son when I check on him at night. You feel guilty you didn't put dinner on, and feel even guiltier if your spouse would go get the dinner with your child giving you a break. But you deserve to worry less if you can. -- Also Anxious. I think part of is that, as parents, we DO need to be more vigilant. I wish you all the best! Avoid TV news and newspapers if they stress you out too much. Im not sure how or why, but it crept up suddenly and instead of living, I keep picturing the end. My decisions are based on anxieties and fears and I know Im not enjoying my precious gift from the Lord as he intended. I am awaiting the time when I am no longer breastfeeding to go back on the Lexapro. Then a child psychiatrist or other mental health provider will evaluate your problems. These are not premonitions. The following may help lead to the development of phobias in children: Shyness or withdrawing from unfamiliar situations or people Cognitive behavioral therapy would really help you-- it is about restructuring your schemas and learning to challenge your own irrational beliefs. I don't think these are ''premonitions'' or ''intuition,'' I think they are spells of terrible anxiety, and a good therapist can help you get to the root of what is causing them. We would like to have an occasional evening out to ourselves, but we are terrified of the idea of leaving him with a stranger (there is no one in our circle of family and friends who could babysit for us). Well, they are still alive, and I still remember that horrible feeling of fear and dread that pervaded my life back then. They also have a personal care database to see the toxin levels in all types of toiletries to help you chose safer brands. It will also depend on how severe the condition is. C.L. I sympathize. Common phobias are a fear of animals, insects, blood, heights, or flying. For me, I realized it was the fear, of ''thinking'' something bad was going to happen, then it went into ''anxiety,'' that it could happen, then it would spiral back into fear, so my husband calls me the ''catastrophic thinker''. There's probably a psychological component to your fears (& mine) that you might want to explore as well. As a parent to another parentyou have to trust other people. There is a huge difference between being mindful of keeping your child safe and obsessing over things that will never happen. The best thing for me is to recognize and say out loud, ''oh, there you go again, thinking the worst.'' I know this is partly a ridiculous question, because everyone reading it probably feels the same to some degree, but I also bet some of you have some good tips for me. If there is a problem, I know I can act on it in a timely manner. Keep reminding yourself that children get aches and pains and hurt themselves normally. I have lots of happy thoughts too, and fun times with my family. For example, check together for under-bed monsters. I think this is even more of an issue if you have experienced personal loss, or abandonment. My fears, though mostly silent, communicated this to her. Get pleasure from the company of your partner and get draped in affection. I was like ''Geez!'' I agree that this kind of thinking is not rational and needs to be addressed. It has been so bad with me, however, that I have been prescribed Xanax to alleviate the anxiety. Scared sometimes too. I saw Mark Balabanis at the San Francisco - Bay Area Center for Cognitive Therapy (http://www.sfbacct.com/; also see the archives). That only makes them seem more real. or even ''what will happen if I tell her that she can't have ice cream for dessert?''). Alternately, another girlfriend who had anxiety issues found out by working with her doctor that she needed progesterine cream and that really helped her. A re-frame of this thought might look like: ''This is just a thought, an form of energy, which doesn't make it true. You want to make sure you aren't verging on OCD, which is much more common than people realize. Kids fall. My strategy is two-fold: 1. But sure, I worry, and I think about how I can't keep my family safe all the time. -A mom who ''goes there'' a lot, too! Take your child's fear seriously. Just to throw it out there - cancer cells need 10 times the amount of sugar to survive than a regular cell, and the digestion of any animal protein uses up two types of enzymes that destroy cancer cells on a daily basis (plant protein doesn't need the enzymes for digestion). That is a lot of information right there that won't sit well with neither the meat nor dairy industry. It's sort of part of being human--we know love and we also know loss. You deserve to feel good and enjoy this time in your life. However, I do not dwell on it. Fear of losing control or going crazy. Be supportive and nonjudgmental. Some things that may put a child at a synonym for injury phobia: fear of having an injury Trichophobia: delusional fear of something in the roots of the hair that stops it from growing, or fear of hair loss Triskaidekaphobia, terdekaphobia fear of the number 13: Trypanophobia, belonephobia, enetophobia fear of needles or injections Trypophobia risk for a phobia include shyness, a traumatic event in early childhood, or mental I have seriously scary premonitions that play out in my head all the time regarding my one year old, and it's been that way since before his birthfrom the every day occurance (like tripping and falling with him in my arms and he gets a serious brain trauma injury), to completely random (like a fire that gets started while cooking that consumes him). These are pangs of guilt. She gets night terrors and is constantly afraid that something will happen to her and that she's not OK moment to moment. Childbirth-Maleusiophobia, Tocophobia, Parturiphobia, or Lockiophobia. Lastly, if it's more than you can handle, see a psychologist and get counseling and perhaps medication if that seems right for you. To a degree, I think it is normal, but no one wants to live in fear all the time. You can quickly learn practical strategies to deal with it. Let your spouse take your child to go get dinner, you will see nothing terrible happens, and can be reassured that these fears are not premonitions, just a normal part of being a human. Help your child slowly face fears. Let other people help you. Also, I think all of us parents have rational and irrational worries about our children and probably will even as our children reach adulthood! Try to think about the positive for at least double the time that you've worried about the bad. We all worry to various degrees. I practice meditation (I find that the metta meditation, or meditation of loving kindness to be especially helpful with this kind of worry), I exercise to reduce anxiety in general, and I try my best to take care of my whole family. (Though reading Pema Chodron does help.) The physical health Please don't let it go unchecked. And go ahead and talk with a therapist--it might be helpful. Anonymous, I too went through a period a few years ago where lots of people I knew were getting cancer and going through treatment. I am definitely interested to see what others have to say about this. Having some fears during each developmental stage is normal. I remember being a kid worrying that my parents would die, being a young married and worrying that my husband would die, and now being a mother and worrying that my child would die. The fear of death is common for children around the ages of 6 or 7. 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